Some basic tips for good communication are:
- Be assertive, honest and patient. You have a long road ahead. Don’t be afraid to share your feelings.
- Use “I” messages rather than “you” messages. By saying “I feel angry” rather than “You made me angry,” you can express your feelings without blaming others, or causing them to become defensive.
- Respect the feelings and rights of others. Don’t say something that will intentionally hurt another person’s feelings. Recognize that the other person has the right to express his or her feelings as well.
- Be clear and specific. Express your needs or feelings clearly. When both parties are straightforward, the chances of reaching mutual understanding are greater.
- If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. If you’re not getting your point across, or you’re getting no response, try again later. Sometimes, it’s just not the right time.